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Forgive the Church????

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Here is a quote that Pete posted for all of us who have been hurt by the church from Henry Nouwen:

“When we have been wounded by the Church, our temptation is to reject it. But when we reject the Church it becomes very hard for us to keep in touch with the living Christ. When we say, “I love Jesus, but I hate the Church,” we end up losing not only the Church but Jesus too.

The challenge is to forgive the Church.

This challenge is especially great because the Church seldom asks us for forgiveness, at least not officially. But the Church as an often fallible human organization needs our forgiveness, while the Church as the living Christ among us continues to offer us forgiveness.

It is important to think about the Church not as “over there” but as a community of struggling, weak people of whom we are part and in whom we meet our Lord and Redeemer.”

Thoughts?

transFORM: A Missional Community Formation Network

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What is one of the biggest problems facing the emerging church today?  The likely answer is that there are not many practical communities that are facilitating a truly missional community on a local level.  You read through a book and realize that there are a lot of things of Jesus missing from 95% of the churches out there and it bothers you.  You try to deal with ridiculous teachings and the all around weirdness at these places, but at the end of the day, you just don’t feel comfortable bringing your friends.  Some of the leaders in the video above, however, are creating communities all over the country that are telling of God’s love and his message of redemption for all of Creation.  Steve Knight, my friend who I met in D.C., has started a Ning Community and network where people have begun to share resources, thoughts, videos, songs, and connect all sorts of people who are trying to be justice oriented and help those in need.  It is truly an honor to be a part of.  I have invites for others who would be interested in joining.  Email, text, call (or get a hold of me however you get a hold of people these days) and I will be sure to explain more details about how this network could really change the typical, fundamentalist message to being more focused on the things of Jesus of Nazareth.

Here are some of my favorite quotes from the video which asks questions like, “What does a missional church look like today?”.  What do you like from the video? What do you disagree with? This video is also helpful if you are just interested in exploring progressive, Evangelical Christianity.  It’s good stuff.  God is working and so are his people.

Well if Jesus started a church in our town, what would it look like?

A casual community where people could come as they are.

We don’t use a whole lot of church language.

Active loving relationship with the world around us.

Authentic. Real.

Organic.

An open conversation where you can share your struggles.

I can sit across the table from someone I completely disagree with and still allow them to sit at the same table and say, ‘I love you, still’.

Working together.

This world needs to be brought back to what was intended and that is loving, healthy, whole people that are reconciled to God and to one another.

I’m part of that story (referring to the story of God).

It will be a journey that will wreck you and save you at the same time.

Community is about surrounding ourselves with people who look like the person we want to become.

The most important thing is to have a place where people can come together and hear the Gospel and that you can do that without a lot of hullabaloo around it and it actually ends up really mattering.

Just love people.

Be steered by the people that God brings to you (allow change).

A season of listening was really critical.

Deep passion for justice and for beauty and for truth.  Community is a place to do those things together.

Inform each other of what is happening.

Question everything. Does that actually serve what we are trying to do?

Where did that theology base come from?

Being missional is having an outward focus. How would Jesus welcome them?

It’s okay to fail.

Develop a disciplined life of prayer.

‘Everybody wants a revolution, but nobody wants to do the dishes.’

transFORM - I like that name -  It’s what we’re trying to be and do.

Book Reflection: “Youth Ministry in Small Churches”

youth-min-small-churchesToday I read “Youth Ministry in Small Churches” by Rick Chromey (1990, Zondervan) and took away a lot of valuable, foundational information.  Below are the points that I took away and have adapted for my own understanding.  Hopefully if you are involved in youth ministry this can be of some value to you.

Small Churches vs. Larger Churches Characteristics

Small churches generally make it easier to make close relationships.  I would advocate to utilize this as a strength and don’t let it become a weakness.  Small churches are intergenerational, whereas larger churches have specified demographics (ex/ all church picnic vs. young adult picnic).  Small churches follow a different calendar.  To plan for 100 kids to go on a canoe trip, you need much more time planning out food, lodging, and other details, whereas a youth group of 10 kids can plan that same trip in a couple of days.

Helping Teenagers Become Leaders

The fifth chapter of the book explores many ways of helping to create leaders not only for the youth group, but for the entire church.  There are a list of excuses that youth leaders say as to why this cannot happen, such as, “We just don’t have any kids who can lead worship or teach Sunday school.”  Chromey argues that this is a limited view of leadership and to do the hard work in finding out the real gifts and interests of the students.  Three other excuses include: “But if we let the kids do it, they’ll mess up. Older church members won’t accept the kids’ leadership. Our kids aren’t spiritually mature.”  To this, Chromey responds that there will be mistakes from the students, but if the kids are trying to serve in a variety of capacities, this can also help bring the older saints to being more open to kids helping.  Personally, I think this type of resistance is only seen in unhealthy situations, but I have seen it frequently from older church members.  If the youth are not spiritually mature, part of the problem could be that they have not been thrown into leadership!  A kid cannot learn to swim unless you throw him in the pool.

Chromey goes on by looking at Jesus’ leadership model (which is fairly overused, but was helpful for me in this case).  He advocates that Jesus developed leadership by using everyone, not just a few.  He also realized that there were all different types of people and met them where they were at.  Jesus made leadership fun (fed the 5,000 people) and encouraged his disciples when they did it right.  Finally, Chromey says that Jesus allowed his leaders to fail (ex/ Peter gets out and tries to walk on water).  This is a huge concept, as it can be so frustrating when you put the ball in someone else’s hands and they drop it.  I think this is a balance, as you do not want to continue to give opportunities to an unreliable person, but second chances are important.

Six step process for giving youth responsibility in the church:

1. Identify Needed Gifts. Sometimes it can be tempting to give away the jobs that simply need done.  Make sure that the person fits the job, or the results will be discouraging for everyone.

2. Recruit Young People.

- Can this young person do the job effectively?

- Is the young person reliable enough for the job?

- Is this responsibility the best way to use the young person’s gifts?

- What factors might make it unwise to give this responsibility to this young person?

Rick Chromey goes on to give creative examples of service outside of the typical “usher” or “tear down” (not to minimize those roles) to suggesting that if someone is interested in agriculture, let them get involved with mowing the grass and doing the landscaping.  If they like cars, have them change oil for needy church attenders.  If they are artistic, have them draw some designs for a sermon series.  Putting people in the right place is crucial to the success for everyone. (Again, these are Rick’s thoughts adapted by me).

3. Plan Together. I have noticed personally that whenever I am involved in the planning stages, I feel much more involved and therefore want to make sure I do this in my ministry.  The more people feel they are involved, the more they will invest.

4. Train the Young Person.

5. Support and Consult.

6. Evaluate.

Recruiting Volunteers

Something I found to be a very important thought was to remember to allow other leaders to take leadership, as opposed to just doing it myself.  I could definitely see this becoming a weakness, but I want to create a culture where leaders are trusted, developed, and given the opportunity to step up and…lead!

As far as the actual recruitment process, Chromey identifies how much work it is to try and get people to give their time and talents.  Sometimes they just need to be asked, but other times you really have to hound them.  However, it can not be that annoying hounding, but consistency with getting people excited about the mission is crucial.

There were a bunch of ideas as to actually recruiting the volunteers, but the one that I liked was the “come and try it out” method.  “Just come and join us this week for the youth group meeting.  If you don’t feel comfortable after watching a meeting, I’ll leave you alone.  But I think you’d be great for the group.”

Budgeting for Your Youth Ministry

Finally, the best chapter of the book was on budgeting including how to prepare one, the benefits of doing it, and budget savers.  I won’t get too detailed into this chapter, as I feel it is better just for reference, but page 106 includes some great “Tips for Successful Fund Raisers”.  He advocates that car washes are just overdone, but gift wrapping at the mall during the Christmas season could be much more profitable.  He also says that the fundraisers should be service-oriented.  Donations for baby sitting is a much better idea than a bake sale where the parents end up doing all the cooking.  He also suggested doing a “Trash-a-thon” where church members make pledges for every bag of trash that is picked up (plus, it helps clean up the area and help the environment!).  The final thought that was good to remember was to choose the fundraisers carefully and sparingly.

Final Thoughts

So, overall the book was a really quick read with a solid bunch of nuggets for youth ministries.  The back of the book also has 18 game ideas, which can also be a helpful reference.  If you are a part-time youth leader or new to the ministry, the foundations and reference from “Youth Ministry in Small Churches” is a worthwhile use of a Saturday while watching college football. :)

7 Year Old Steals Car To Avoid Going to Church

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What can we learn from this? Ha! Pretty funny, but a sometimes telling-tale of how people avoid our churches like the plague.

Church Sign Updates

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Everybody needs a nice laugh to make it through Wednesday (thanks for sending the pic Melda).  My award for “Worst Church Name” goes to “Christ Soul Saving Station” (credit Joel Friend).  I really hope their motto is something like, “Get ‘em saved and move on”.  That would be greaaat.

/sarcasm. :-)

What If There Was a Church Like That?

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What if you could create a church that was exactly the way you would have it? What would it look like?  Who would come?  Who would you impact?  How many lives would you end up making a positive influence on? Who, in effect, might that group actually end up building up walls for rather than bringing people closer to the way of Jesus of Nazareth?

Now, what if you had to choose a church in your area and accept it for all of its flaws, but also felt comfortable enough to bring someone with many different life experiences?  What would you place as the biggest priority of the group?  Community? “Jesus”?  The trinity? The people you attracted? How the message was relayed?

What if there was a church that placed value in all of these areas?  What if there was a church that placed a high value on the mystery of God, yet still said there were countless ways to get to know the Divine? What if this church drew lines in the sand on many things, but accepted you regardless of your faith background?

What if there was a church that was filled with diversity? What if at this place there were suburban and urban people, hippies and rockers, rappers and someone who’s been shot 9 times (no…50 cent doesn’t go to this church, but he would be welcomed), vegetarians and meat lovers, young and vibrant, old and wise, and people with young families?

What if there was a church that truly valued people more than anything else? What if one of the core values was to never let the building become a financial priority sucking up unnecessary resources, but still found a place large enough for gathering?  What if this place threw a free breakfast for your city and had a woman so touched and overwhelmed when she found this out that tears steamed down from her face (sounds like Coldplay lyrics)?  What if this lady, the week before this mother’s day event, was evicted from her home because of actions caused by her helping hand to her own daughter and son-in-law? What if this church bought her a bus pass after providing a free meal, no strings attached?  What if you had someone from this church community who lost his job in a tough economy and another married couple from the church agreed to let this young man live with them while he worked and saved up enough money to be on his own again?  What if another group left a couple of days ago to go build schools in the rainforests of South America?  What if you had people in your congregation who struggled with binge eating, alcoholism, weed smoking, pride, lust, and anything else under the sun? What if in spite of these things, these people daily tried to make strides towards becoming more like their Creator?

What if at Christmas time, a teacher from the church group came to the community and said that there were tons of children in need for clothes, food, and school supplies?  What if the church sacrificed receiving any sort of money for 6-8 weeks and gave it all to children in need? What if there was a devastating tragedy of a local 9 year girl being shot and killed and the community deciding to take its entire offering of over $500 to give to the family?

What if your worship leader had dread-locks? What if you had a whole host of musicians and worship leaders that all brought different ideas and talents to the service? What if there were no performances, but instead there were frequent times of silence and reflection? What if as a sign of unity, communion was done during every Sunday morning gathering?

What if there was a church that believed in equality? What if there was a church that believed that woman could be just as good (if not better) leaders than men and that the idea of men being over woman was not only wrong, but harmful to half of humanity?  What if there was a church that had a homosexual couple that drove over an hour to come join the community because they felt comfortable?  What if there was a church that didn’t judge the couple immediately when they walked in the door?  What if there was a church that said, “we don’t make policies on people”?  What if this group also had people end up at all sorts of stances on gay marriage and any other sort of hot topic issue?  What if the worship leader told this homosexual couple that God loved them, but that there were people in the group who would say that was sexual sin, just like the rest of us had sexual sin in our lives?  What if that couple said that they respected that much more than simply saying God loves you and you can do no wrong?  What if all of us sinners were growing together? Read More »

My “Coming Out of the Closet” into the Emergent Church

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Ok.  I’ll admit it.  I am not a homosexual as people normally refer to with the “coming out of the closet”.  However, I am coming out and saying that I am part of the Emergent Church.  Sorry for the gimmick.

If you are a reader of mine, most of you will not even know what this means.  There are so many different theological expressions out there (traditionally and organizationally called denominations) that interpret the Bible much differently from one another.  The emergent church transcends denominational lines and is more about the manifestation of faith rather than an exact belief system.  The emergent church is defined in a book called, Emerging Churches: Creating Christian Community in Postmodern Cultures by Eddie Gibbs and Ryan Bolger, (Baker Academic, 2005) as follows:

“Emerging churches are communities that practice the way of Jesus within postmodern cultures. This definition encompasses nine practices. Emerging churches (1) identify with the life of Jesus, (2) transform the secular realm, and (3) live highly communal lives. Because of these three activities, they (4) welcome the stranger, (5) serve with generosity, (6) participate as producers, (7) create as created beings, (8) lead as a body, and (9) take part in spiritual activities.” Read More »